Posts Tagged ‘Coaching’


Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

Got It!!! …. Lost It!!!

Ever feel like you had it but somewhere along your journey in life you lost it? As Lou Dozier would say, “Got it … Lost it.” Somehow in the cycle of life we have these moments in life where everything is going great, and we are trucking along, then we look up, and we are off course again. I’ve decided to call it the “got it, lost it” effect.

What in your life did you have at one point, but now that you have been trucking down the road of life, you realize somewhere along the journey you took a detour, and you’re a little off course? Have you lost it forever? Is it something that you can get back easily? Can you get your truck back on the road?

I would assert that you can easily get back on your chosen path quickly and easily. It only takes two things, the first the choice to get back on your path, and the second, committed action to what you want. Once you’re aware you’re off track, it’s easy to make the choice to say you want to get back on track. So that leaves committed action to your choice.

Where have you gone off track? Where do you want to get back on track? What committed action can you take today to get your life back on the “Got it” track? It only takes one small step to start moving towards what you want in life. What are you willing to do?

To your first step in getting back on track! Got It!!!


Thursday, March 18th, 2010

One of my visions in life is that everyone has the knowledge that they get to make choices in their life, and that based on those choices, they create their destiny. Over the next few weeks I’ll be blogging about my vision and how it can help you in your life. It seems so simply to most of us who were blessed with growing up in a free society and have access to the internet. My purpose for writing my blog posts over the next few weeks is to have you realize what a blessing and privilege you have to make the choices in your life and to act on that ability to choose in each moment in your life to create the life of your dreams.

In every moment, during every day you get to choose; the way you see with your filters, the way you feel with your filters, the way you hear with your filters, the way you react with your filters, and what actions you make based on those filters. It’s easy to forget that we get to make choices, and instead be the victim, blame others and complain about what has ‘happened’ to us.

I challenge you to wake up each day, and be thankful that you have the privilege to have the freedom of choice, to remember your freedom of choice when the going gets tough. When you feel like you’re the victim, go back and analyze your choices, and be accountable for the choices that you have made that have gotten you your current results. When you want different results, make different choices. It sounds simple, and I know, sometimes it seems more like you’re pushing a rock uphill. But it’s easy enough to start with the first step of being thankful that you live in a society that allows you the freedom of choice. Step 1: Start with an Attitude of Gratitude!

Until my next blog, I hope that you have a wonderful day and create the life you have been dreaming of!


Sunday, March 7th, 2010

Do you ever stop and get to really know people, and I mean really know them? When you sit down and have a meal with someone or a phone conversation, do you really stop and listen to what the other person is saying? Have you ever thought about what the other person sitting across from you at the restaurant can really share with you?

Today I had brunch with a family member and a friend of hers. I decided at the beginning of brunch that I just wanted to listen to what this new person had to contribute and really listen to who he was. To my surprise, he had so much to offer me and contribute to my life. We actually have a lot in common, and had I not chosen to really listen to him, I would have never really ‘heard’ him. By the way, this is a person, that on paper; I would probably not get along with. We have very different political views. However, what doesn’t matter is how we vote in the ballot box, but how we show up in our day-to-day lives. Because I took that time to get to know the person sitting across from me, I learned that this person was actually someone that I could hang out with and we could equally contribute to each other’s lives.

I really had to examine, how many times a day, do I meet people, and not really listen to them. What am I missing by not really connecting and listening to what people have to offer to me? What could I be missing and not offering to people? All of us want to be connected with others but how quickly we rush through our day and don’t stop and take the time to really connect with the person sitting across from us.

So I challenge you, over the next week, stop and really listen to the person sitting across from you. Who is that person? How can you connect with them? How can the two of you help each other? You just never know who you might meet.

What is Real Compassion?

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

Do you have real compassion? I had several “ah-ha” moments this week about real compassion. I am not talking about the kind of compassion that we show to the sick and the poor, or those who are hurting. I would assert that many have seen and felt a deep level of compassion for the victims of the recent earthquake in Haiti.

While this type of compassion is important and helps all of us humans connect, I’m talking about a compassion that goes much deeper than this. What about compassion for those that it is easier to turn our backs on, the ones who rob and hurt us. What about compassion for them? I read a story this week in Judith Orloff’s book, Emotional Freedom, that really made me rethink the way I see people and compassion.

A woman had traveled to India to interview the Dalai Lama. While with the Dalai Lama, on the street she witnessed a man viciously beating a dog. When she asked the Dalai Lama about it, he said “Compassion means being sorry for the man as well as the dog.”

What is so profound here, is we not only need to extend compassion to the dog, but also to the man. Why you might ask, as I did when I first heard this story. What emotions must this man be feeling and going through that he would have the capacity to beat the dog in the first place? What deep pain and anger must be boiling and raging inside him, eating away at him, that he only knows to beat an animal. To show that man compassion, that is real compassion, to me.

Is it easy, of course not; the easy answer would be to have compassion just for the dog. It would be to turn our anger and rage towards the man. But what profound changes could you make in this world, if you stopped for just a second and showed compassion for the man too. What impact could you have on that man if you showed him real compassion. What anger and rage could you dissipate if you showed it compassion. Who do you know that you need to start having real compassion for, right now?

Creating Your Online Presence

Friday, February 19th, 2010

Are you ready to jump online? If you’re like me, you may have thought about having an online presence and probably read about or gone to a workshop that raved about all the great things an online presence can do for you or your business. Many have called it viral marketing.

Regardless of what path or avenue you’ve chosen to take, you may have had some trepidation about putting yourself or your company “online.” You may have thought, “my privacy will be violated,” “I won’t be able to control what others post about me,” “I don’t know how to create an online presence,” and on and on and on. Regardless of what conversation you have had with yourself, there is probably a pretty good chance you didn’t jump online with blind faith and throw up a bunch of pictures and personal information.

Well you’re not alone. Before I created my online presence I went to a few internet media workshops, did my research and figured out it was probably best that I had a presence online but I wasn’t sure where to start. I started talking with others and realized they were in the same boat as me. They wanted to have an online presence but had some fears around putting themselves online and didn’t know where to start.

So what to do know? Well as a coach, I can’t just let you be paralyzed by fear or analysis paralysis as I like to call it. As you can see from my results, I jumped online and created an online presence for myself. How? Actually it was easy, first I decided what I wanted my online presence to look like. I decided that a dedicated website and email was the first thing I wanted and second I wanted a Facebook fan page. If I decide later on that Twitter make sense, then I’ll join Twitter. At the moment, I know that’s probably too much for me to take on.

Once I decided what I wanted my online presence to look like, I had to take the first step to make my presence tangible. I got online and registered my domain name and email. Okay, this wasn’t so hard after all. Once I started taking small, easy steps it became so much easier. I started to take small steps weekly to create my online presence. After getting my webpage up, I then got my Facebook fan page up. I have now scheduled in weekly time to update both my blog on my webpage and my Facebook fan page.

What works for me is to slowly build up my online presence and not feel overwhelmed by thinking that my entire site must be built up with multiple posts and blogs before launching it. After a few weeks, I’ve been able to create a website, and Facebook fan page that already has a following.

So I challenge you, become aware of what fears are holding you back from jumping in and creating your online presence. Once you’re aware, are they really that large, can you quiet some of your fears by taking a small step, either by registering your domain name or creating a Facebook page? If you take a small step to grow your online presence right now, and another one next week, and commit to do that weekly, how quickly can you grow your online presence? Small habitual action steps can create tremendous results. What are you committed to doing right now to jump in? I look forward to ‘seeing’ you online!

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