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Friday, August 19th, 2011

Several months back I posted a question on twitter, “Does slow and steady really win the race?” I simply posted this question because true to my fashion, I had waited to complete a project and was up late the night before, putting in my best work. Now of course, when I say my best work, my best caffeinated, bleary-eyed, 1:00 AM adrenaline laced work.

The situation I had created for myself really did get me thinking, does slow and steady really win the race? I know for myself, some of my truly best pieces of work have been accomplished when I’ve had the pressure put on me, and usually sliding in just at the last second. Not when I have methodically spent scheduled hours prepping and preparing the work or meeting the goal in a timely manner, turning the project in early. Does any of this resonate with you?

While I’m not condoning procrastination, I have really stopped to question our thought process in thinking that slow and steady wins the race. Of course there are times when it does, like with retirement planning. With the law of compounding interest, of course the longer you save, the more you’re going to come out with, and the earlier you start saving the earlier you can retire.

But how about when it comes to career advancement? Does this ring true in your organization? Do the oldest hold all the top positions, because they have been there the longest and deserve the promotion. I can tell you that that doesn’t hold true in most organizations. While it used to be the case that employees stuck with an employer their whole lives and eventually received the corner office after 30 years of service and a gold watch upon retirement that just doesn’t hold true anymore. More and more companies are hiring the next big rising star and the person with the most energy is getting the corner office, while the person with the longest amount of years is just another employee ID number when it comes time for payroll.

So, I ask myself again, does slow and steady always win the race, well at least not in today’s corporate America. To get ahead one has to be the hare sometimes and get out in front of the crowd. Maybe not by rushing our work along, but by working harder to get more done, to be accomplished in a shorter period of time, and be recognized for those accomplishments; rather than just taking it slow and easy and just letting it all come to you, step by step, rung by rung, up the ladder.


Saturday, August 13th, 2011

Do you ever jump into something with the best intentions and then fall flat on your face shortly thereafter? So as you have probably noticed, I haven’t been blogging, in oh, longer than a year. Of course when I started I had the best of intentions to blog at least once a week, then once a month, and eventually it trailed off to, well seems like never.

So I’m back, with a new and improved plan for blogging on a regular basis. Of course that is the conversation that I’ve had with myself, every week for the last six months. So what was different today that I actually sat down, wrote and posted this blog?

Well after reviewing my previous posts, my posts on ‘Got it … Lost it,’ it reminded me to ‘get it’ again, and if I ‘lose it,’ I can always ‘find it’ again. So here I am, finding my writers groove and posting again. So I remind you the reader, what have you said over and over again, and maybe tried over and over again, with the best of intentions, that you were surely going to do this time.

For me, this time, I had to have no plan. I just had to write and post. Action was my first step this time. Not inaction or planning. So, what can you do today, right now that you have been saying you’re going to do with the best of intentions. Put your best intention into action, I just did, and now I’m blogging again.


Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

Got It!!! …. Lost It!!!

Ever feel like you had it but somewhere along your journey in life you lost it? As Lou Dozier would say, “Got it … Lost it.” Somehow in the cycle of life we have these moments in life where everything is going great, and we are trucking along, then we look up, and we are off course again. I’ve decided to call it the “got it, lost it” effect.

What in your life did you have at one point, but now that you have been trucking down the road of life, you realize somewhere along the journey you took a detour, and you’re a little off course? Have you lost it forever? Is it something that you can get back easily? Can you get your truck back on the road?

I would assert that you can easily get back on your chosen path quickly and easily. It only takes two things, the first the choice to get back on your path, and the second, committed action to what you want. Once you’re aware you’re off track, it’s easy to make the choice to say you want to get back on track. So that leaves committed action to your choice.

Where have you gone off track? Where do you want to get back on track? What committed action can you take today to get your life back on the “Got it” track? It only takes one small step to start moving towards what you want in life. What are you willing to do?

To your first step in getting back on track! Got It!!!


Sunday, April 18th, 2010

Do you lead from a place of purpose and vision? We are all leaders in our lives, whether we are leading ourselves or others. The real question is, how is your leadership style showing up when you lead? Do you lead with a true sense of purpose and know where you’re headed, regardless of how you get there, or are you more concerned with the doing and details that you lose site of the big picture?

When you get very clear with your purpose and your why for leading your own life or a group of others, the details of how to get to your desired outcome will fall into place. The universe will open up for you and align with you and resources will appear to assist you with your desired outcome.

Many leaders get stuck in telling others how to do tasks that they themselves have been successful at. However, that does not motivate others for very long. What motivates one internally and motivates others is a shared sense of purpose and vision. Have you thought about what your purpose is for leading your own life and with the groups that you have led lately?

Until you get clear about what your purpose is, you will stay stuck in the vicious cycle of doing to create results, and many times getting burned out, and burning others out. If you can clearly define your purpose, share it with others and have them align around it, the doing part of the action plan will magically fall into place.

If you would like to find out more information on leading from purpose and vision, check out Source Point Trainings Leadership Source. ( There you will find your Purpose and Vision and walk away with tools and a coach that will assist you to take massive action today to transform your life. I highly recommend the program to everyone!

Until my next blog … have a wonderful day finding your purpose and vision!


Saturday, March 27th, 2010

What is your purpose in life? What has you get up every day and keeps your adrenaline pumping? In my last blog I talked about my vision around people’s ability to make choices. Remembering that we have the ability to make choice is the first step in creating the life of your dreams. The second step is making choices that are in alignment with your purpose.

Have you ever done something that got you so excited that you couldn’t stop the activity or lose all track of time? What made you so purposeful in your task? If you can find out what your purpose for a task is, when you are faced with making choices, especially when they are hard choices, it will be much easier to make the choice that is in alignment with your purpose. As you get clearer with your purpose, the path that you are on towards your desired destiny will become clearer. You will see that the choices may not be harder, or choices that may have seemed difficult may not be as difficult before. You won’t feel as though you’re a victim anymore. You will know that the choices you are making are moving you towards your desired outcome.

Once you stop swimming against your purpose, and start swimming with your purpose, life won’t seem so tough. Things will fall into alignment with your purpose. You will have more energy and things that seemed unattainable or out of reach will seem closer and appear much easier than they did before. A purpose doesn’t have to be a large overarching life purpose either. It can be as simple as my purpose is in writing this post. My purpose in writing this post is to share with you, the reader, tools to create awareness resourcefulness and energy in your life. Because I’m clear with my purpose I can complete my task, get my blog finished and posted. I don’t have to worry about how it looks or is it ‘right.’ As long as I’ve shared with you my tools then I’m fulfilling my purpose.

So I challenge you, the next time you’re faced with making difficult choices, or you feel like your swimming against the current, get very clear with yourself about what your purpose is and make your choices so that they are in alignment with your purpose. You’ll be amazed at how much energy you create!

Until my next blog, have an energetic day in alignment with your purpose!


Thursday, March 18th, 2010

One of my visions in life is that everyone has the knowledge that they get to make choices in their life, and that based on those choices, they create their destiny. Over the next few weeks I’ll be blogging about my vision and how it can help you in your life. It seems so simply to most of us who were blessed with growing up in a free society and have access to the internet. My purpose for writing my blog posts over the next few weeks is to have you realize what a blessing and privilege you have to make the choices in your life and to act on that ability to choose in each moment in your life to create the life of your dreams.

In every moment, during every day you get to choose; the way you see with your filters, the way you feel with your filters, the way you hear with your filters, the way you react with your filters, and what actions you make based on those filters. It’s easy to forget that we get to make choices, and instead be the victim, blame others and complain about what has ‘happened’ to us.

I challenge you to wake up each day, and be thankful that you have the privilege to have the freedom of choice, to remember your freedom of choice when the going gets tough. When you feel like you’re the victim, go back and analyze your choices, and be accountable for the choices that you have made that have gotten you your current results. When you want different results, make different choices. It sounds simple, and I know, sometimes it seems more like you’re pushing a rock uphill. But it’s easy enough to start with the first step of being thankful that you live in a society that allows you the freedom of choice. Step 1: Start with an Attitude of Gratitude!

Until my next blog, I hope that you have a wonderful day and create the life you have been dreaming of!


Sunday, March 7th, 2010

Do you ever stop and get to really know people, and I mean really know them? When you sit down and have a meal with someone or a phone conversation, do you really stop and listen to what the other person is saying? Have you ever thought about what the other person sitting across from you at the restaurant can really share with you?

Today I had brunch with a family member and a friend of hers. I decided at the beginning of brunch that I just wanted to listen to what this new person had to contribute and really listen to who he was. To my surprise, he had so much to offer me and contribute to my life. We actually have a lot in common, and had I not chosen to really listen to him, I would have never really ‘heard’ him. By the way, this is a person, that on paper; I would probably not get along with. We have very different political views. However, what doesn’t matter is how we vote in the ballot box, but how we show up in our day-to-day lives. Because I took that time to get to know the person sitting across from me, I learned that this person was actually someone that I could hang out with and we could equally contribute to each other’s lives.

I really had to examine, how many times a day, do I meet people, and not really listen to them. What am I missing by not really connecting and listening to what people have to offer to me? What could I be missing and not offering to people? All of us want to be connected with others but how quickly we rush through our day and don’t stop and take the time to really connect with the person sitting across from us.

So I challenge you, over the next week, stop and really listen to the person sitting across from you. Who is that person? How can you connect with them? How can the two of you help each other? You just never know who you might meet.


Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

Have you ever wanted to do something but weren’t sure where to begin or if you should? If you’re like me, you may be the analytical type and you seek lots of information before making a decision. Maybe you aren’t sure where to begin or how to begin. You have been looking around for answers or for someone to tell you the easy, 1,2,3 steps to getting it done. Maybe you want to know what the outcome will be to minimize all of the risks before jumping in with both feet.

Have you searched high and low for all the available data to diminish the risks, to know the outcomes, so you could take the first step. Maybe if you talk to one more person they will have one more piece of insight or advice that will help you take that first step. But realistically, what is stopping you from actually doing what you want, from taking that first step? Is having all the information really going to take away all the risks or going to give you all the answers? The reality is, it won’t.

So, how do you get over the hurdle of wanting to reduce the risks while you seek information, and still take the first step towards what you seek. Simple, take an initial step towards your desired outcome. Once you have taken that initial step, you can then analyze your results. Are you getting your desired outcome? If you are, great, keep moving forward. If your not, great, you can change your direction. Without taking some type of action, you will never know what outcome your choices will make. So, take a step, and then ask yourself, what are my results?

What is Real Compassion?

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

Do you have real compassion? I had several “ah-ha” moments this week about real compassion. I am not talking about the kind of compassion that we show to the sick and the poor, or those who are hurting. I would assert that many have seen and felt a deep level of compassion for the victims of the recent earthquake in Haiti.

While this type of compassion is important and helps all of us humans connect, I’m talking about a compassion that goes much deeper than this. What about compassion for those that it is easier to turn our backs on, the ones who rob and hurt us. What about compassion for them? I read a story this week in Judith Orloff’s book, Emotional Freedom, that really made me rethink the way I see people and compassion.

A woman had traveled to India to interview the Dalai Lama. While with the Dalai Lama, on the street she witnessed a man viciously beating a dog. When she asked the Dalai Lama about it, he said “Compassion means being sorry for the man as well as the dog.”

What is so profound here, is we not only need to extend compassion to the dog, but also to the man. Why you might ask, as I did when I first heard this story. What emotions must this man be feeling and going through that he would have the capacity to beat the dog in the first place? What deep pain and anger must be boiling and raging inside him, eating away at him, that he only knows to beat an animal. To show that man compassion, that is real compassion, to me.

Is it easy, of course not; the easy answer would be to have compassion just for the dog. It would be to turn our anger and rage towards the man. But what profound changes could you make in this world, if you stopped for just a second and showed compassion for the man too. What impact could you have on that man if you showed him real compassion. What anger and rage could you dissipate if you showed it compassion. Who do you know that you need to start having real compassion for, right now?

Creating Your Online Presence

Friday, February 19th, 2010

Are you ready to jump online? If you’re like me, you may have thought about having an online presence and probably read about or gone to a workshop that raved about all the great things an online presence can do for you or your business. Many have called it viral marketing.

Regardless of what path or avenue you’ve chosen to take, you may have had some trepidation about putting yourself or your company “online.” You may have thought, “my privacy will be violated,” “I won’t be able to control what others post about me,” “I don’t know how to create an online presence,” and on and on and on. Regardless of what conversation you have had with yourself, there is probably a pretty good chance you didn’t jump online with blind faith and throw up a bunch of pictures and personal information.

Well you’re not alone. Before I created my online presence I went to a few internet media workshops, did my research and figured out it was probably best that I had a presence online but I wasn’t sure where to start. I started talking with others and realized they were in the same boat as me. They wanted to have an online presence but had some fears around putting themselves online and didn’t know where to start.

So what to do know? Well as a coach, I can’t just let you be paralyzed by fear or analysis paralysis as I like to call it. As you can see from my results, I jumped online and created an online presence for myself. How? Actually it was easy, first I decided what I wanted my online presence to look like. I decided that a dedicated website and email was the first thing I wanted and second I wanted a Facebook fan page. If I decide later on that Twitter make sense, then I’ll join Twitter. At the moment, I know that’s probably too much for me to take on.

Once I decided what I wanted my online presence to look like, I had to take the first step to make my presence tangible. I got online and registered my domain name and email. Okay, this wasn’t so hard after all. Once I started taking small, easy steps it became so much easier. I started to take small steps weekly to create my online presence. After getting my webpage up, I then got my Facebook fan page up. I have now scheduled in weekly time to update both my blog on my webpage and my Facebook fan page.

What works for me is to slowly build up my online presence and not feel overwhelmed by thinking that my entire site must be built up with multiple posts and blogs before launching it. After a few weeks, I’ve been able to create a website, and Facebook fan page that already has a following.

So I challenge you, become aware of what fears are holding you back from jumping in and creating your online presence. Once you’re aware, are they really that large, can you quiet some of your fears by taking a small step, either by registering your domain name or creating a Facebook page? If you take a small step to grow your online presence right now, and another one next week, and commit to do that weekly, how quickly can you grow your online presence? Small habitual action steps can create tremendous results. What are you committed to doing right now to jump in? I look forward to ‘seeing’ you online!

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